Juan V López. God #1, Family #1A. Fitness. Nutrition. Writer. Nu Alpha Kappa. UNR. MBA Candidate. Online Marketer. Entrepreneur. Workin' Hard & Stayin' Humble. On the pursuit of my purpose. I will change the world.
Trying to work your way back into someone’s life who you’ve hurt is quite possibly the most difficult thing to do in this world.
Trust is very difficult to build, but so easy to break.
The person you hurt – they don’t owe you anything. They don’t owe you the common decency to return your calls, answer your texts or even acknowledge your existence. You lost the right to those privileges when you hurt them.
And for the person who did the hurting, we feel a mountain of guilt. It’s on our conscious every day, we feel regret, and the remorse lies deep within our soul.
We look back and think, “Damn…WTF was I doing?”
And no matter how much people will tell you this beforehand, you always find yourself saying…”You don’t really know what you have until you don’t have it anymore.”
And as much as we want to, we can’t go back in time. We CAN’T fix things by just saying sorry. But what we CAN do is admit to our mistakes, truly apologize to those we’ve hurt, and strive to be a better person today.
You have to re-prove yourself through every opportunity you get with consistent actions to show that your character is different & you’re truly a changed person – show them with your actions, not your words.
You see, one thing I’ve learned is that it is never too late to seek forgiveness, acceptance and understanding.
It is never too late to reach out to that person, make yourself vulnerable, and open your soul to them. Sometimes they may give you an opportunity to work yourself back into their life, but other times they won’t. This is a risk you have to take if you feel the fact of losing them is greater than the risk of putting your own emotional being on the line.
But if you feel the risk is worth it, reach out to them. Make yourself vulnerable. Pick up the phone and call them. Say sorry first.
The sad part is, we’ll continue to hurt people in our lives – no matter how much advice we get. It’s in our nature to not take the time to smell the rose we have in front of us.
BUT the amazing part is that you always have the opportunity to let go of your guilt, hold yourself accountable to your actions, and fight for any opportunity you get to re-build something you’ve destroyed.
If you get these opportunities…treasure ‘em.
**Happy Monday & peace, yall.**
15) “Every person plays a role in the central history of the world – and normally, he doesn’t know it.”
16) “Every search begins with beginner’s luck. And every search ends with the victor’s being severely tested.”
17) “That’s the way it always is,” said the old man. “It’s called the principle of favorability. When you play cards the first time, you are almost sure to win. Beginner’s luck.”
"Why is that?"
"Because there is a force that wants you to realize your destiny; it wets your appetite with a taste of success.”
"Few things are more empowering than having someone else believe in you."
The power of believing in yourself is unbelievable – but the impact of having someone else believe in you is life-changing.
You can have all the belief in the world in yourself. You can see greatness in yourself. You can see amazing things in your future – but that all only goes so far.
Eventually, life knocks you down, obstacles are too high, and you fail – It happens.
At these times, your belief in yourself starts to waver. You question your abilities. You doubt your aptitude.
BUT, when others believe in you – and they express that belief in you – it changes the game.
When people believe in you, something amazing starts to happen within you. It enacts a fire, lights a flame, and ignites an unstoppable drive.
And even if you fail, fall or falter, they’ll still believe in you. Their belief is consistent and persistent.
People’s belief in you is sometimes undeserved and may sometimes leave you wondering, “Why do they keep telling me that? … I appreciate it, but they’re crazy.”
But what these people are doing is paying it forward.
They understand that not everyone is born with a huge intrinsic belief in themselves that they’ll change the world or be an amazing person in this world.
So, they take it upon themselves to outwardly express their belief in you - with the hopes that you start to believe in yourself. And THAT’S the beauty of seeing great things in someone else.
When people believe in you, something amazing happens … you start to believe in yourself.
So, pay it forward.
Outwardly express your belief in someone. Tell them you see greatness in their future. Guarantee them they’re going to change this world.
And watch something amazing happen as they start to believe your belief in them.
Accept more. Trust more. Let go more. Be more patient.
Judge less. Strive less.
"Stress is entirely a creation of our mind."
Stress is terrible. It affects every single part of your body. You get headaches, stomach aches, clammy hands, sweaty hands, increases heart rate, muscle twitches, clenched jaws, high blood pressure…& then there’s this:
Stress is HUGE. Yet, it is absolutely nothing.
By itself, “stress” is nothing – it’s not an actual thing. Stress is merely defined as our response to a stressor, such as an environmental condition or a stimulus. So, how we interpret something – this is how stress is created.
At its core, stress is the relationship between our perceived demands (how much work we have to do) and our perceived capabilities (how able we are to perform this work). So, if your perceived demands are higher than your perceived capabilities, this triggers stress. Essentially, if you start to think you have what it takes to perform the duties that are on your plate, you’ll feel stress.
If you don’t have enough time, money, patience, intelligence, beauty, etc., etc., etc., to do what you have to do, you start to go a little crazy.
But when you think back to the fact that these are all perceived notions, it changes everything. When we DON’T think we have enough _____ to perform ____, we get stressed. But when we DO think we have enough ____ to perform ____, we love it. This is easy to us. This is stressless & enjoyable.
So, when you change your approach, perspective and attitude toward a situation you’re in, it changes EVERYTHING.
Crazy how much our body is affected by what is conjured up in our minds, right?
While this might not do much for the stressors in your life right now, simply breaking down the word and realizing that “stress” is something we create and control is very empowering. Try it…I guarantee this increased mindfulness practice will relieve some of your stress.
Some people mistake acceptance for complacency. It’s not. Acceptance is being able to identify what you CANNOT change, thus enabling you to focus your attention on what CAN be changed. It’s a position that gives you more control of your situation, rather than less.
There is no shortage on pretty girls, cute boys, gorgeous women & handsome men on this earth.
There is however, a scarcity of partners who are supporting, appreciative, loyal, understanding, accepting, willing to be challenged, willing to challenge you, open, ambitious, respectful, passionate, patient, insightful, unconditional, giving & genuine.
That second group…hang on to ‘em.