There is no shortage on pretty girls, cute boys, gorgeous women & handsome men on this earth.
There is however, a scarcity of partners who are supporting, appreciative, loyal, understanding, accepting, willing to be challenged, willing to challenge you, open, ambitious, respectful, passionate, patient, insightful, unconditional, giving & genuine.
That second group…hang on to ‘em.”
When you have a passion, follow it. Make it your mission. Be prepared to work hard and sacrifice, and don’t let anyone limit your dreams.
Just wrote this response to a brother of mine who was asking for post-college advice. Wanted to also post it here in case anyone can take something from it:
Hey bro, first of all congratulations! You’re probably feeling a mix of emotions right now from excited to worried to afraid to anxious…but graduating is a huge accomplishment, so congrats!
With regards to your post-college career, my main point of advice to you would be to capitalize on every single opportunity that is brought in your path.
I was a sports journalist for my entire undergraduate career at UNR. I worked for the school newspaper, had many internships around the country, was editor in chief of my school paper, won awards – but when I finished school in spring 2012, I was totally lost. The journalism industry isn’t one that’s booming & it takes a lot of grit and determination to find your footing in it.
I applied for jobs, internships, assistantships (all in the sports journalism field), but nothing came back. I felt dejected & was really questioning the past 5 years of my life.
However, a big mistake that I made was fixating on trying to find a job in sports journalism, because that’s what my background was in. In reality, being a journalist equipped me with tons of skills that were applicable to many fields – the ability to write, communicate effectively, talk to people, work under stress, bring the main ideas out of a large amount of information, etc.
Once I realized this, I humbled myself a ton and start applying for jobs that I once saw as menial. Trust me, this took a lot of humility on my part – plus, I needed a job ASAP or else I’d have to move back home with my family. I eventually came to apply for a job as a front desk person at a gym that was a part of a hospital in Reno. I went in for the interview & I naturally highlighted everything else I was able to do. I told them about my experience with web development, design, copywriting, email marketing, etc. And at the end of the interview, they created a position for me as a marketing coordinator of the gym (which is actually the top gym in Reno).
LONG story short, this marketing position led me to a ton of amazing opportunities in life:
• I enrolled into grad school to pursue my Masters in Business Administration
• I moved on from this job to become the online marketing coordinator for this crazy successful entrepreneur
• I have my own online marketing business as well
• I took a position on the NEB as the director of programs, which helped me network a ton & have brothers across the nation who have my back at the drop of a dime
I tell you all of this stuff not to gloat, but to let you know that none of my good fortune would’ve happened had I not humbled myself and taken opportunities that were right in front of me. When I was focused on entering the journalism field, I passed by other opportunities. But when I opened myself to other opportunities, I became very blessed.
One opportunity led to another, one connection led to another, one network led to another – all because I just put myself out there.
The truth is, very few people get to jump into a career they love & are destined for at a young age. A very, very small percentage of people do this. That’s not to tell you to just give up and go the route of the other 99.9% of the people in the world, but it’s to tell you that just because it doesn’t happen immediately for you after college does not mean it is still not in your future path. You can still work very hard in life at other opportunities, and eventually, they will lead you to your true calling.
Plus, by being a journalist, you have a ton of skills & abilities that are greatly valued in today’s society (writing, communicating, working on deadlines, identifying key ideas, etc.).
This probably wasn’t the response you were expecting, but it’s just to let you know that although things my seem unclear for a moment in your future, taking opportunities that come to you is quite possibly the best decision you can make in any circumstance.
Sorry for the LONG response lol, I just feel very passionate about things like this, because ultimately, they just serve to develop us as better people.
Hope this helps bro! Let me know what comes to mind & best of luck again.
Just received an email saying I was awarded a scholarship that will pay for my entire 2014-15 academic year of graduate school in the MBA program at UNR.
I’m writing this holding back tears in my eyes & crazy joy running through my veins, so please bare with me. *& please, please, PLEASE read this all the way through.*
For months, I’ve been dreading the fall 2014 semester at UNR. Not because the classes in the MBA program are too tough, or because work is an overload, or because I don’t think I’m ready – but because I’m taking on a full-time class load (9 credits), which means full-time payment.
Graduate credits cost a buttload & with me getting braces soon & doing a lot of travel this summer, I’ve been wondering how I’m going to manage my finances to pay for all of this.
So I contemplated going for a lesser class load in school or perhaps pushing back my braces even more, just to look for ways to make ends meet.
But I made a decision recently to just go for it all. Just go for it. I wasn’t sure how I was going to pay everything, but I knew that God had gotten me this far, and he wouldn’t leave me hanging now.
I was uncertain & definitely shaken.
So to get this notice today was a direct message from God. He’s telling me that so long as I am carrying out His will, working in His plan, and moving into His calling for me, He will provide the way.
He will provide.
I asked you to read this all the way through, not because I care how many likes or comments this gets, but to share the joy of God’s grace & remind you that, as people, a lot of times, we limit ourselves.
We limit ourselves by asking, “How am I going to pay for this?” or “Where am I going to find time to do that?” or “How am I going to do this?” Whether it’s an opportunity in higher education, an unplanned circumstance, an undecided future, or just an uncertain tomorrow – we limit ourselves because we focus too much on the “how are we going to get this done” part instead of realizing that God will take care of the “how.”
He will provide.
Shoot for the moon. Be greater than you’ve ever imagined. Don’t limit yourself. Work through God & He will equip your every need. Dream crazy enough & they just might start to come true.
God will provide.
“Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ … your heavenly Father knows that you need them all.” – Matthew 6:31-32
Whether you believe in God or not, just know that He believes in you.
Stay blessed, yall, & happy day.
I know there are many, many, MANY double standards in this world. HOWEVER, gym hygiene is NOT one of them lol.
You are held to the same standard as men when it comes to being clean, smelling decent, and not wearing the same sweaty shirt to the gym 4 days in a row. Just because you may look pretty, have smooth skin or luscious hair does not mean you are exempt from this rule.
This goes for men too, but we seem to get the idea better haha.
For the record, this is not most women…just a few brave ones lol.
I seriously almost vomited today at my gym walking by some women doing some HIIT. I won’t call anyone out by name, workout, or looks…just know that it wasn’t the first time lol. C’mon, ladies!!!!!! #FactsOnly #RantOver
Work hard & be humble.
No need to brag or boast about your doings.
If your actions are truly meaningful, they will be recognized.”